Is it wrong for me to be upset that my “best Friend” goes to her boyfriend before she goes to me about stuff? Especially when I have known her longer?
I ask this because, a friend of mine is dealing with a trauma in her life, one that I can relate with quite well, the passing on of a grandfather, not only can I relate as I lost my own grandfather who I was very close to, but I was also quite close to said friend’s family.
I guess I just find it almost insulting when I get messages from the boyfriend telling me to call her, but not tell her he told me that she needed me. My theory is, you have to tell me if you need me, I can’t read minds. And I have not once turned her down when she said “I need you” for any reason. That’s the type of friend I am, I almost always bend over backwards for a friend.
I want her to know she isn’t alone, and I have brought the thought/idea up to her about her coming to me instead of the boyfriend, or before the boyfriend, she just kind of shrugged it off. It hurt me.
“All the clouds oh they're gray I'll stay if you go away Concrete, tall as the sky movement, passing me by and the blush what a rush reminisce cold crush, next door, ear to the wall, all the tension, wait for the call..” - Behind Blue Eyes (cover) - Limp Bizket
4 comments:
I am your best friend, goddammit.
This is true. But I Have Four best friends....
You, Kristin, Ashley and Laura.
Grief is a funny thing. It affects people in different ways. There is no script on etiquette when one is going through grief so no real way to tell if someone is not behaving as they should.
I hope you find some resolution to the issue with your friend.
well its not just with this, Its kind of everything... no matter what, this is just an example. I dont really have a resolution, things with her never get resolved, they get pushed aside and burried.
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